BestGirlFriend

I am one of those people that chose to date my best friend. My best friend of ten years.
Now I've always understood his personality, I understand his ways. Hell, our birthdays are 15 days apart.
So when he gets upset about something, of course I'm genuinely concerned.
But just as I get angry and shut everyone else out in order to fester upon my thoughts of the situation(s) at hand, he does so also.
However, as his best friend I know to leave him be and allow him to remove himself from his funk, just as I would expect of him.
But here's my conflicting issue/thought.
As his girlfriend I feel as though he should be able to talk to me at least. Or maybe even more so as his best friend I would think he would be able to confide in me.
But, I guess not.
Funny how much the song by Music Soulchild reflects my issue.
I don't know whether the best friend side of me is upset or the girlfriend side.
But I do know that as his best friend it upsets me to think he doesn't feel he can no longer confide in me all bc of this girlfriend title  when before I'd always be the one he'd tell his problems to if no one else.
I texted 5 times, no answer. I waited two days no call.
NOW, he's pisssed off the girlfriend side too!
But as his best friend, I'm still concerned.
I feel like now of all times, I no longer know my place in his life. Bc I thought he'd trust me even more but it's more like he shuts me out more than before. But I deal with it bc I love him, and always want to see him happy.
But I will say it hurts me to see him this way. To know I can do nothing is honestly fucked up. I feel more helpless than when I was just his best friend. I feel like I do nothing for him if I can't cheer him up or at least be the one person he tells his problems to...
He sees no problem in what he's doing bc as his best friend I would allow him to kind of shut me out for a while before I "bugged" him again.  But now it just hurts.

My opinion on marriage, lying, and cheating

Someone asked me; so, here are my thoughts:

I understand that the Lord asked you to forgive, but he didn't say be naive.

He asked you to love but he asked BOTH to vow that it was til death do you part.

One half of this contract that the two have made has become null and void when one side decides to step out of their marriage to seek love, attention, emotional affection, or physical affection.

Those things, you seek at home with your spouse/family.

I feel as though the one doing all the cheating no longer has respect for their spouse nor the bond that they have through christ.

And at that point it is solely up to the one being cheated on to know that their heart has had enough pain throughout all their loyalty.

God asked us to love, not until it hurts.

Because love, and his grace DOES NOT HURT.

A marriage should be the place where you feel almost the safest.

You should be able to tell your spouse anything, especially how you feel.

There should never be a reason that you and your spouse aren't on the same page bc you're a team.

A team graced with the glory of God that has bonded the two together.

I feel that at the end of the day if there's no love and loyalty being reciprocated that you should be able to voice that and also be able to tell them you're tired of it.

You should be able to tell your husband or wife anything. To me, they should be your everyday confessional booth.

There should be no judgement only love and support.

And if YOU messed up, you should be woman enough or man enough to tell them and own up to giving them that option to refuse being lied to our cheated on bc you gave yourself the option to do the lying or cheating.

That's just my opinion. =)